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Sunday, April 28, 2013

Christian Parenting Handbook Review

(As a member of the Christian Parenting Handbook Launch team
I received the handbook free for review with my honest opinion
and the opportunity to promote a couple of giveaways. )

I probably  have read every parenting guide on the market.
When I was expecting my first child I wanted to learn all that I could
about what was coming. As each child goes through life changes or
"shifts" I like to relook at some parenting techniques. It is helpful to
gather ideas of different ways to parent effectively. There are
so many opinions out there on how you should parent. I take what
I can from each one and apply it to my family. I have not found one
like this one that uses biblical principle. God breathed is the right
breath to take.
God's word is the basis of this book that transforms
it into your own parenting philosophy. We can think of our bible
as a training guide for life, so why wouldn't we look to it for our
parenting tips. Christian Parenting Handbook is an excellent
resource to read and then save on your bookshelf for when you
feel you need a parenting brush up. It's a book that will keep giving
back to you over the years.

 


(Things I learned)



The Heart Concept...



God gave each of our children a heart and within that heart gave people
the ability to choose. When a child makes a wrong choice then that is a
heart issue. We can us behavior modification for a quick answer but it
doesn't change the child's heart. Behavior modification works it's just not
enough. We as parents want that heart change. We want our children to
succeed and not carry their sins through life. We want them to be able to
release and live with a close connection to God.

When I look at my own family the age that always gets me is the middle
schooled age. There is something about that stage that I find difficult.
It's this quiet delicate leaf sitting on a ledge that could go one way or
another later as a teenager.  If I push on direction it might be to hard
and if I don't push enough it might not be enough. I want the heart
to overrule and for my children to choose right ,to choose God.

The handbook suggests that heart-based approach. I took the time to
write out the struggles we faced for each of my children at the stage they
are presently in. The Christian parenting handbook gives you suggestions
for doing this. I learned many of the behaviors were associated to something
of the heart that is lacking that we need to work on. Now I can create a
strategy for character development in that particular area. I was given
so many ideas so that I can creatively and effectively teach, train ,
and love my children.



Giving Thanks...


I learned that it is really good to not only thank your children but
to point out when they presented a character quality with a pointed
response. Doing so means that they will begin to develop character
within themselves. I really like that. I like the idea of them creating an
internal voice that is a positive voice.





"Your enjoyment of your kids creates a connectedness that runs deep"



Communication...



Communication is really the key to success with your children.
It is important to take the time to really listen to them, to sit and
allow them to express feelings they may be having. Then guide them
toward a brighter goal in a relaxed conversation. Easier said then done
right? Well  yes, but you have options. There are things you can say
and ways to build this relationship between your child and you. I
seriously just wanted to write some of these things on post it
notes and place them strategically around the house for support.


I think the kids would think I have really lost it this time.
Children need that positive affirmation but a genuine one.
Chapter 8's title says it all "Look for Heart Moments." The parenting
handbook points out that often we look for the things that are going
wrong. Taking the time to encourage them on their good days is
much better than continually recognizing the alternate behavior.




That Moment When I understood...



As related to the Bible, I think I finally really get it. I've been studying
the book of Luke verse for verse with Good morning girls  and
after reading the Parenting handbook I can correlate the two.
Jesus came into this world to gather hearts. Jesus said his Kingdom
was beginning quietly. Like the tiny mustard seed that grows into an
enormous tree. The Kingdom of God would push outward until the
world was changed. Slowly we can encourage , love, listen and push
outward until the child's heart is changed. You will find some great ideas
to share spiritual family time and I cannot wait to give them a try.




Quick look at Teens....


"Although you've been able to "control" young children, the
Key to teenagers is "influence".



I thought this quote from the book was important to share. I often see
this going on with teens in our church. The more the parent "controls"
the more the child tries to rebel against the rules of the family.




My favorite Chapter...


One of my favorite Chapters is Chapter 15 Teach kids to use
energy to the family.
I love how the family is introduced to the word
honor and that word is used through that family's daily life.
I hope to use this concept to create a better system of honor
within our family. My wheels are spinning. Thanks for the great tips!!




Is the Information working for our family...


Using the parenting handbook I was able to take certain situations
in our family and turn them around. One example is our Sunday
mornings. Sad to say but every Sunday morning ends in tears from
someone and a lot of frustration from me. This is a situation that has
become a pattern for our family. As I read I realized this pattern and
was able to make small changes to get our family to Sunday Services

without all the stress, putting everyone in the frame of mind that they
needed to be in. I realized that we weren't all prepared for the morning
rush. I am staff so I'm required to be there by a certain time. This is
difficult with the entire family in tow. I needed to plan a little ahead.
I had to make sure all my lesson and activities for the services were
prepared ahead of time. No more Sunday morning rush to print out
something moments. My youngest son struggled to find his belongings,
so we tried having everyone put their bags and bibles by the door.
He also had issues finding clothes to wear so we laid them out the night
before. I  assigned some things to the older children. This all made
our mornings go so much smoother and really I'm not sure why
I didn't figure it out before. I also realized that because of my own stress
of trying to get ready and on time I was ultimately setting up my family
for failure. My expectations of Sunday mornings weren't very high.
I expected the chaos because it had become the norm so my tone
and behavior was also leading the moment. This had to change and
with that knowledge and a plan I was able to feel secure in the moment
and work through any conflict that arose.

I encourage you to take a look at the Christian Parenting Handbook
I have learned so much so far and there is a lot more that
I didn't mention. I may just reread this over the summer breaking
it down into workable steps for my family.





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Warm Blessings,

Nikki







1 comments:

  1. This is a great review Nikki. You were very thorough, but you took time to share how it was working in your family. I especially appreciated your story about your Sunday routines. Let me share personally for a moment. This heart-based approach has been revolutionary in my life. It’s helped me as a father, husband, leader, supervisor, coach, and in other areas. Behavior modification is effective if your only desire is to get your children to act a certain way. If you want to shape their character, you need to work on the level of the heart. My sons are both adults now and they are fine young men of good character. We consistently focused on the character quality of honoring others in our family! We returned home from vacation in December to find our whole house cleaned and a Christmas tree in place in the corner of the living room. Now that’s honor! This is just one example of the great insights from this special book.

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